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Have you ever found yourself holding a grudge against someone? If not, have you observed someone else who has? Either way, it isn't a very pretty sight. To allow oneself to be consumed with hatred and bitterness due to an offense that has been caused by a former friend, relative, co-worker etc., is the same as putting on chains. Bitterness, hatred, and all other negative emotions come with a weight. At first, it may seem easier to feel this way towards someone who has done something justifiably wrong to you. However, in the end you are robbing yourself of love, peace, joy, and maybe good health. Yes....depression and anxiety can be possible results of holding onto grudges, which could lead to loss of appetite, sleep, and other related health issues! So, my suggestion to us all is to let it go!! And how do you do that? By letting go of thoughts of revenge and bitterness. Let's not hold onto that offense (easier said than done right?) and allow bitterness, revenge, or hate enter into our hearts. Forgiveness does not mean that you do not hold the other person responsible for their actions. Instead, you have chosen not to carry the negative experience any further in your life. Embrace forgiveness for YOURSELF, if for no other reason and move forward. I am not saying it will be easy. It is a process that will take time and commitment. I suggest we begin by reflecting within and also understanding how much can be gained by forgiving. When you reach the point where you are ready, forgive those who have caused you pain or hurt and release the control that the person and the situation has had over you. Ahhhhhh, now doesn't that feel better??